Who sits where at your Reception

wedding table seating chart

Organising the seating plan can often be the hardest task for brides and grooms. Consider who is at your wedding and their different personal requirements. So who sits where?


  1. Traditionally, the newlyweds sit in the middle of the table, with the bride seated to the groom’s right. The maid of honour (MOH) sits next to the bride and bridesmaids next to the MOH. The best man (BM) sits next to the groom and the groomsmen sit next to the (BM). Same-sex couples can feel free to seat themselves as they’d like.
  2. Generally, it’s a male/female pattern around the table, but don’t worry about sticking religiously to male-female, male-female. The most important thing is that guests sit next to people whose company they enjoy.
  3. Don’t split up couples. Couples sit next to each other.
  4. Put people with others whom they already know and get on well with.
  5. Place guests who don’t know anyone next to people who are friendly and easy to talk to.
  6. Consider who might be in their seat the most. This might be your grandparents or your guest who’s caring for a new bub. These guests might enjoy the quieter end of the room, so move them right away from the dance floor and speakers.
  7. Grandparents are best away from speakers, so towards the front of the room nearest you so they can still hear the speeches.
  8. The party-goers. You might like to seat these animals near the dance floor. They’ll be the first ones to get the party started.
  9. Parents. It’s a sorted tradition that the parents of the bride and groom are seated closest the happy couple
  10. Children at your wedding? Allocate them a table all to themselves and set them up with some fun activities such as colouring books and crayons. Click here for some options.
  11. Consider special circumstances like family members or divorced couples who don’t get along and make sure they are not seated close to each other.
  12. If parents have been divorced and remarried, they should be seated next to their new partners.
  13. The closer people are seated to the bridal table, the more they are honoured. i.e. the closer a relative, the nearer they should be seated to the bridal table.
  14. If you have a large group of friends you need to divide, split the group down the middle and fill each table with other people. That way no one feels completely left out.
  15. For single friends, judge which seating situation will make them happiest—a table of unattached counterparts or a few couples mixed into the scene. Never, and we do mean never, seat only one or two singles at a table full of couples, and try to avoid tables of all strangers.
  16. If the reception is informal, you can let guests decide where they will sit. Another alternative is to decide who sits at which table but not designate specific seating arrangements at that table. People can then sit next to whom they choose at their table.
  17. Don’t get stressed or fight over the seating plan. Accept that you will not be able to please everyone.

Happy Planning!

xx Sam